Why It's Okay To Be Let Down & How To Handle It Properly

We all have been let down at some point in our lives. Whether it was a relationship that didn’t go anywhere. Or not getting the position you wanted. Getting let down is something that is just apart of life. But it’s also something to accept in a way. Also, most of us don’t even know how to handle being let down. We are just thrown in to situations having to learn as we go. And sometimes we don’t learn the right set of tools.

It's okay to feel disappointed

Even though we have to accept the outcomes. That doesn’t mean we have to like it. You’re aloud to be disappointed with a let down. You had your hopes up for a certain situation. And the outcome you wanted didn’t happen. That’s okay. Let yourself feel the emotions that are rushing through your head. Pushing them down and trying to avoid them won’t help you heal. Or even move on. There are some let downs that will be more hurtful than others and that’s fine.

You get let down, so pick yourself back up

You can wallow. Or you can dwell on it. But you can’t stay there. Choosing to stay kicked down will only hinder you. Yes, I said that it’s okay to feel let down. And feel those emotions that come with it. Although, you can’t let those emotions overrun you. Because as soon as they do, it will break your self confidence. It will break your self-esteem. Don’t let the situation get that control over you.

Know that this doesn't dictate who you are

Lets use an example. Say you had feelings for someone and they weren’t reciprocated. Just because the other person didn’t feel the same ,doesn’t mean your worth is low. Or that you are unlikable. Too many a times we let others opinions or emotions dictate ours. We let the outside noise choose how we should perceive ourselves. So, you didn’t get that higher up position you wanted. That’s fine. It doesn’t mean that you are any less of a hard worker than you are. Maybe it means that you have the skills ,but not yet.

Use the "let downs" as a learning curve

Some people say that everything in life happens for a reason. Personally, I find that saying to be a load of bs. But, hey , to each their own. Although, what I do believe is that their is a lesson to be learned in everything. Even the most minuscule of things. There is something to be taken away from it. Use your let downs as a lesson and then move on from it. Take what you can perceive from the situation. Maybe you might encounter this again down the road. Even if you don’t ,you learned a valuable life lesson. Something you will always remember.

What do you do next?

This is the common question to ask yourself after anything. Where do you go from here? What are the next steps? You’ve been let down. Your plan A or your so called “dream guy” is no more. So, what do you do? I can’t tell you that. It’s something you have to sit down with yourself and figure out. Although, I can tell you what not to do.

Don’t sit and wait. If you think there will be an after credit scene of all this then you’re setting yourself up for more pain. What you thought was gonna happen didn’t so, let’s move to plan B.
Don’t isolate yourself. We tend to want to fix things ourselves. But at the moment your judgement is clouded. Sometime you need a partial mind to help you see things clearly.
Don’t minimize your goals. You’ll want to lessen what you’re capable of. Trust me, don’t do that. If anything, make your goals even bigger. Think of your life as a long line. Within that line you have even littler lines. This one negative impact is so small in your entire life line. Don’t let it ruin your future. Especially when you don’t know what it holds for you.

Have some faith...

My dad and I were talking recently. I had applied for this higher up position at work and I didn’t get it. My boss had called that day to tell me. My hopes were crushed a bit. Mostly, because I had put so much weight on me getting this position. It sucked really bad. I did cry a bit cause I was super disappointed. When I was expressing how I felt to my dad ,he kept trying to make me remember something important. It was to not lose faith in myself. That I’m letting this one negative impact blind me from all the other accomplishments I have done recently. Just because this didn’t work out didn’t make me a failure. It just means I’m not ready for it right now. He was right,. I bet he’s reading this and just laughing to himself cause he knows he was.

It sucks to be let down. People let you down. Situations let you down. Just life in general lets you down and it sucks. But things will turn around. Slowly ,but surely you’ll see some progress. Just have some faith not only in yourself ,but in whatever higher power you believe in.

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